Monday, October 27, 2008

Tyra Banks Show: Teen Marriage

Woo, where to begin. Well I am currently watching The Tyra Banks Show, and that is my girl. On T.V. anyway, our age difference would be quite unsettling if we were actually friends, lol. Anywho, I will be adding things as I go on and watch the show when a break comes on. The first break just started so I will try to get in all my information as quick as possible.

So the first girl just came on, she is 15 years old, and is engaged to an 18 year old. She is taking fertility drugs to get pregnant. Sweety, obviously you are not meant to be pregnant. It's fifteen year olds who haven't even started menstruating. She thinks she is grown. You know how she got the drugs? She used her momma's credit card. So someone please tell me how she will buy her baby's diapers and take him to the doctor??? Okay it's back on...

Well now, I have a few questions for that momma there. But she will be on next so I am sure Tyra will let her know. Lol. It's very unsettling. It's hard to understand. I would want to give my child everything, and have a nice wedding. I am 18 and I am ready to get married if that great guy comes along, but that may be another 2-5 years and I am in college, and have a job, even if I were to be engaged, the actual marriage might not happen for awhile. When I was 15 marriage was a nice dream, but not what I wanted just yet. Guys were still immature assholes for me, and I just can't wrap my finger around what people are thinking these days. I don't think they understand. I watched my mother struggle, and struggle to give me what she wanted for me...I don't want my family to struggle, and when you purposely get pregnant at 15, that's what you're doing. She says Jamie Lynne is her Idol. Jamie has MONEY. She can support that baby and look like it's a fab life but it's not!! Everyone said some little girl would come out thinking Jamie was amazing, and I didn't believe them, looks like I was wrong...Another Pause.

Awwww, there is always some underlying cause of why the little girls wants to be married. Take a guess, I'll give you a second to take 1 guess.......Finished? Well she feels upset that she has no friends, her father is missing, and she wants something of her own that she could love and hold. This is mental/psychological for me. I think when daddy is missing, or causes stress in the family, and if your daughter is feeling abandoned in school then you need to talk with her! I used to be the same way, but I opened my eyes. I still grew up, but I wasn't going to change my life with a baby. It's a sad thing, but single mothers can raise healthy kids. Just because daddy isn't there or not supportive like mines, it doesn't mean your daughter or you (if you're a child reading) has to go through the pain and struggle and wanting to get pregnant. When Tyra comes back she says whther or not this girl is pregnant. I feel like I'm making a synopsis lol. I think this is my favorite blog so far.

Alright well she is not pregnant, of course, lol. I hope she changes her mind. It's something totally different to have an accident, and become pregnant, but when you are TTC(Trying To Conceive) at 15, it's not...right. So now, I will wait for the next couple for me to rip apart. *Evil Laugh*

P.S. I do totally understand the world not letting you grow up, and it is frustrating, but you have to get over it because being young has restraints. You can't get a good job and honestly I am happy to be 18 and in college lmao. It's frustrating, but you have to occupy your time and do things that people your age are doing and live life...don't live it too hard though!!
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Lol, the next girl, Kirsti was proposed to in Walmart, lmao. That's SOOO romantic. I would not mind a simple down on the knee but, please do not catch me in the grocery store, that's not cute nor creative. Do it in a restaurant, even my house, but in a walmart? That's not classy. I know people who would probably say it shouldn't matter, but I feel like Walmart is classless and childish. I try not to be a shallow person, but I want something creative and memorable, and if a guy proposed in the restaurant which is rather traditional, I would be happy. So I think that's pretty unshallow. Right? RIGHT!? Lol. I can't get over Walmart though...who does that???

Her boyfriend broke up with her twice for some other girl. Sure he apologized but obviously he is not ready to settle down. She is setting herself up to be heartbroken through constant cheating because when they're married, he can't say, "I want to break up with you." He'll end up sneaking around her back.

These couples seem very unsettled and though my heart goes out to the first one for many reasons; they were interracial, and felt ready and actually had a sense of maturity to them, the overall fact is life cannot be completed when young. The economy, the media, and your family does not allow for such things. I know I personally would not my daughter getting married at any age under 18, and if she is 18 she would have to be in college and keeping her ass there, either that or she better not be living in my house, that goes for a son too. *Ahem* So that's what rocked my world so early in the morning, it's about 1:00 AM now and I am just chillin' lol. I am also shocked how orderly everything is, and I wrote a conclusion! Some english teacher out there has got to be proud! Please comment on your ideas, or my ideas and thoughts on this subject.

Jennifer Hudson's Family

In case no one has heard the devastating news, it can be found here at this link: http://www.chicagotribune.com/chi-jennifer-hudson-timeline-1027,0,1408545.story

I will give you a minute to read it...

Okay, now you know the deal. I have so much to say...yet I don't know where to begin. My heart and prayers go out to her family and everyone because this is so tragic. It amazes me how someone can have the heart...the guts, no morals, no...ugh. There are just no words. If they find the killer he shouldn't even be able to speak. Just throw his ass in jail. Now, I am against Capitol Punishment but this is one of the cases where I wouldn't care.

Just, how? And Why? The person I am most saddened for is the little boy. He barely began life yet! Only 7 years old, and it was taken from him. He was taken from his mother! She will have to live with that for the rest of her life and who knows how it will affect her? What gives people the right to take anyone's life?

I pray that they do not give up hope or their faith in God. They will need his strength to get through this hard time. I just, I don't even know what to say. I particularly hate death, and hate hearing about it and especially speaking upon it. I refuse to go to funerals....so that may be why I am lacking in thoughts. If anyone has anything to say on the topic or wants to leave their condolences as well, then feel free to leave a comment.

Monday, October 20, 2008

The Duggar Family

Note: I do not make outlines so I warn you that my information can be jumbled and out of some type of chronological order.

In case no one knows about the family, it's the family who is currently expecting their 18th child. Their shows can be found on TLC. I am pretty sure they will continue to be on TV while Michelle (mom) continues to bring more children into the world. What brought me to write this is because I am currently watching it. Their 18th child is another girl thankfully considering they have 10 boys. They need more estrogen in that house. I just read here: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/26942419/ that the oldest just got married at 20 I might add! I am going to be biased for 5 seconds (as I plan on marrying young), as I figured having that many kids would be birth control for the whole family, or more of a reason to move out as quick as possible so maybe that makes more sense.

Now, this is interesting for me because their newest child Jessica is only a little over one year old, and her and her new sister will be a year and a few months apart. Some women cry over their miscarriages and what not, and people struggle to get pregnant, and babies are being left in trash cans...and this woman can have a baby on a whim! It's honestly quite depressing, and I know she isn't the only mother in the world to have done this before, but she's being displayed on TV, and they all have the same parents, and they're slightly different and I will go on to explain why.

I love Angelina Jolie. I have respect for her. Except for when she looks like she's letting her body waste away. She has 3 biological kids, and 3 adopted children. This is /exactly/ how I want my family to be. Other children deserve a home, and yet you want to have your own kids. Angelina started adopting while she was single, and she is obviously capable of having her own kids even if she may need a doctor's help, yet she still adopts. Call her what you want, I feel like she does it genuinely. If she adopted 18 kids I would be happy too! Maybe what makes me so angry at the Duggar Family is their family seems so "happy" and perfect. Ever watched Jon & Kate plus 8? The kids fight, and Kate yells, and the couple bickers slightly, and when they go in public they have behaved children that get restless. I find it so hard to understand how talking sweetly gets the kids to behave, and in a way it doesn't, but I don't need to go into that.

MSNBC has been good to me today. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20134584/ Here I find they are apart of a Christian movement called the Quiverful, and it sounds so old fashioned. "
Couples in the movement also believe that the husband is the head of the household and the wife is submissive to him, while the children are submissive to both. The girls wear long dresses or skirts and tops, while the boys wear slacks and polo shirts."(Mike Celzic), but I thought women came a long way to not be under a man's wing. "To each their own." I myself believe in God, but, that does not mean...well now see, I can't even phrase my words without sounding extremely wrong, or ignorant as if I haven't already.

Lastly all I want to say is, it shouldn't even be surprising that she says she's pregnant again, but the fact that she continues, it IS surprising. I think the next time I'll be shocked is when she says she can no longer get pregnant. That honestly has to be more annoying than happy to go through pregnancy /again/. It's just too much.

Anyone have any opinions on my thoughts? Something to add? The Duggar family is a great family but they fill me with jealousy, and anger, and other stuff that I vented most of.